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sissy slave jamie
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17th-Nov-2008 02:02 pm
I have a question.

In a family situation. Should a family member upon recognizing an unsafe act or the conditions possibly leading to loss of life or limb let that person or the leader of the family know to avoid said problems?

If the above is dismissed as not being important, should the complainant accept that as final or do what?

Should an adult be told that they may be committing an unsafe act or left to that person's judgement?

Thank you
17th-Nov-2008 08:35 pm (UTC)
It's hard to deal in absolutes, because a lot of this can, unfortunately, be a grey area. But:

Are you okay? Are you in any danger? Because I'm a little freaked/worried right now.

Yes, you should let the acknowledged authority in the family know if there's an unsafe situation. If it's being dismissed, than you need to look for an outside authority -- maybe something like the cops? Or removing yourself and whoever you think is in that unsafe situation.

Of course an adult should be told. Unless you've got a compelling reason to think telling might make the situation worse -- which, unfortunately, happens. In that case, again, you're looking at an outside adult/authority who can provide some mitigation and influence.
17th-Nov-2008 08:46 pm (UTC)
Thank you Ladycat. I'm sorry if i was vague in the matter. i am ok and not in danger right now. What brought it up was that i was operating a table saw with safety features that had been removed.

i think the core of what i am trying to find out is i have been trained and brought up with the idea that somethings you might feel strongly about you don't let go such as safety issues. i feel that if i witness anyone including another adult about to commit an unsafe act i should tell them about it or try to prevent them from doing it. i know that there have been times where i have been told or reminded before doing this or that and after realizing it i was glad they did.

i just have not encountered the idea that if an adult makes such a mistake to let them etc

sissy girl
17th-Nov-2008 09:01 pm (UTC)
Ah, okay! That's... not really reassuring -- no safety features on a table saw is bad!! -- but not what I was worried about, so yay. I know you and Luvs play with others, sometimes, and they aren't always as careful as you guys are, so I worried.

But yeah, in this case -- it definitely needs safety features, and you should definitely talk to someone about it. There may be reasons why those features were removed, legit reasons, but unless those reasons are damned compelling, I wouldn't just accept it. That's a dangerous situation, no doubt, and there are acknowledge safety procedures about those things for a reason. Whether it's personal or professional, they should be adhered to.

i just have not encountered the idea that if an adult makes such a mistake to let them etc

?? Who on earth told you that? Sometimes you have to let people make mistakes to learn, yes, but making sure safety regulations are followed is not one of those life lessons, you know? Of course people need to point those things out.
17th-Nov-2008 09:11 pm (UTC)
I agree with Ladycat (not a shock! ♥) and think you should bring it up to your Mistress, for sure. She wants you safe and she'd like to hear about concerns, I'd think.

By the way, it's nice to see you. :-)
17th-Nov-2008 09:24 pm (UTC)
Thank you byrne. i appreciate your feedback. It is difficult communicating things like this without arguments ensuing.

Thanks again!

sissy girl
17th-Nov-2008 09:24 pm (UTC)
Thank you, its nice to see you too! :)
17th-Nov-2008 11:35 pm (UTC)
I agree with what's been said as well. I also feel that you should *always* discuss your concerns with your mistress. There really shouldn't be any doubt in your mind about that.
18th-Nov-2008 02:04 am (UTC)
Thank you tygerseye. i agree. i guess im at an empasse about that.

i appreciate everyone's feedback :)

sissy girl
17th-Nov-2008 09:22 pm (UTC)
Thank You Ladycat. You know it is difficult when one finds them in the middle of "Do i try to get my point across or do i let go" when i find myself with strong feelings that turns into or potentially turns into an argument. Also knowing my place as Her sissy slave girl seems to lessen my say in things too. Domina ended up telling leopet to replace the guides but not without the bad feelings W/we have right now. i hate having arguments like that!
19th-Nov-2008 01:17 am (UTC)
It sounds like the right thing to have done to bring up the safety concerns, not fun, but better that everyone is safe. Sure, maybe nothing bad would have happened, but if it had? The feelings would be much worse than discomfort among the people you love and live with. *hugs* Maybe you can find a way to express appreciation (and relief, I imagine!) for having your concerns heard, even if the process hasn't been much fun.

Much peace to you, sweetie.
19th-Nov-2008 02:48 am (UTC)
Thank you so much speakingsilence. i agree and as i found out that the safety issue was not really questioned. Where the problem arose was timing and my failure to stop when She had enough conversation.

Thank you again!

sissy girl
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18th-Nov-2008 11:51 pm (UTC)
Hi rainkatt, Its nice to see you too!

Thank you all for your feedback!

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